Windsor, United Kingdom, November 27, 2009 --(PR.com
)-- Any talk of sexual arousal and orgasm, usually focuses on women since men’s sexual arousal and orgasm tend to be a given.
It is unthinkable that anyone needs to tell a man how to reach orgasm. By the time they are teenagers, boys have discovered how to enjoy their own sexual arousal, by looking at images of naked women. Likewise no one tells a boy that he needs to stimulate his penis if he is to bring his mental state of arousal to orgasm through masturbation.
Most women never masturbate and so they never learn that real female orgasms arise (just as male orgasms do) from bringing a mental state of sexual arousal to orgasm using genital stimulation (of the clitoris).
Given the popular belief that female arousal and orgasm during sex are easily achieved, many women simply assume that they experience these sensations as a natural part of their sexual relationship.
(1) Sexual arousal (using erotic images/fantasies)
We know that men achieve sexual arousal through an appreciation of eroticism (explicitly sexual images) and yet it is often implied that women’s sexual arousal arises from their loving emotions for their partner.
As if we are all as innocent as Snow White, it is rarely acknowledged that if women are to reach orgasm, they will need to make conscious effort to occupy their minds with erotic thoughts or images (a process which happens much more subconsciously for the male mind). Any woman who masturbates accepts that sexual arousal depends on these explicitly erotic concepts.
Young men transition naturally to sex because the body of a real sexual partner substitutes for the images from pornographic magazines. Imagine being a woman, who approaches sex with no hint of an erection. Men’s minds become aroused so instantaneously that we gain the impression that physical stimulation alone gives them an erection (causes sexual arousal).
Women do not react as men do to the sight of naked images (even a lover’s body). This is why women don’t pay men to do lap-dancing, pole-dancing or other sexually provocative teasing using their bodies. Women’s fantasies work well when alone but can be difficult to relate to day-to-day sexual opportunities because they are often based on quite surreal erotic scenarios.
(2) Clitoral stimulation
The only reason anyone would stimulate their genitals (casual curiosity aside) is because they know that with sufficient levels of sexual arousal, genital stimulation leads to orgasm.
For those women who do enjoy eroticism, there is a chance that they will explore their own sexual arousal enough to discover masturbation and to make the connection between genital stimulation (of the clitoris) and orgasm.
We know that women need clitoral stimulation for orgasm from female masturbation. But even during female masturbation, clitoral stimulation only works once a woman has achieved sufficient Mental Arousal by using sexual fantasies.
The average woman does not approach sex looking for clitoral stimulation because she is unlikely to be sexually aroused enough for genital stimulation to make sense. A woman needs to know how to become mentally aroused before genital stimulation by anyone (either themselves or a partner) can be effective.
Women who masturbate know that they need to use sexual fantasies for arousal during female masturbation. Women are likely to find it much more difficult to use the same techniques during sex with a partner because of the mental focus required to reach orgasm through sexual fantasies alone.