Bellevue, WA, June 02, 2010 --(PR.com
)-- Marlon Familton Marriage Counselor at Collaborative Couples & Family Counseling, LLC in Bellevue Washington, presents a new article on Understanding Emotions in Your Relationship. The article discusses how emotions create havoc in relationships and how to manage them more effectively.
Many times when things happen in our relationship, we find ourselves feeling upset, distant and disconnected with our partner. We feel angry, sad, lonely, scared, and yet most often when we express these things to our partner, it only makes the situation worse. We argue, fight and escalate the tension.
"In my article I discuss the message that our basic emotions are designed to communicate to us and what we can do to feel better," Familton says. "Individuals who are able to become aware of their emotions have taken a huge first step."
The article goes on to discuss the difference between "primary" emotions and "coping reactions". Primary emotions are when we feel mad, sad or scared and Familton suggests being able to express these in our relationships will help it stay healthy.
"Most often we feel vulnerable with our partner and cannot stay with that basic emotion. Instead we flip to a copying strategy," Familton says. "When this happens we start to push our partner away from us and contribute to escalating the situation. Ironically the opposite of what we want."
The article is available on Marlon's website at www.securelove.net.