Washington, DC, November 06, 2010 --(PR.com
)-- As Donna Marie Thompson's special guest on the Bouncing Back Now show on the Real Coaching Radio TV Network, Ms. Marla Martenson intrigued viewers with her insights into relationships related to getting ready to date, identifying desired qualities in a mate, and going out on that critical first date.
Martenson discussed the importance of getting ready to date before actually beginning to date. That means no longer harboring resentment, bitterness, and anger from past relationships. That means forgiving and forgetting so that her clients are in a place where a new person could enter their lives with a clean slate.
Martenson stressed the benefits of taking the time to do the work needed to fully come to terms with what happened in past relationships and to sort out residual feelings. This is an essential step to move forward. "Each person will go through this relationship readiness process at their own pace. Each person will end up at a different place from where they started with new insights and lessons to take on," advised Martenson.
With on-line dating and professional matchmaking going positively mainstream, Martenson cited numerous profile tools to document key client attributes as well as to specify the core attributes that clients are looking for in a date or a mate. She believes that the most important attribute is alignment with core values; this is non-negotiable.
Martenson revealed the virtual obsession in Los Angeles with the young, the gorgeous, and the scary skinny. "But, there is still hope for the rest of us as well with realistic expectations of finding a true soul mate with inner qualities and good character," assured Martenson. A few key ways to enhance overall appeal are to:
· Develop abilities to carry on a casual conversation
· Engage in interesting pursuits that are enriching
· Have an easy-going attitude and smile readily
· Take an active interest in others; listen
· Women to present as feminine in appearance
· Men to present as well-groomed.
Martenson summarized just a few ways to go about life to increase overall chances of being noticed – after all, that is the first step. "Then you will be well on your way to finding someone special -- right in your own local community," advises Martenson.
That critical first date can be fun or it can be a veritable minefield. Going in with an open, positive attitude – just to meet and enjoy a new person and to see what happens is the best approach. Never approach a first date with view of finding “the one,” cautions Martenson.
Martenson also revealed a list of taboo conversation topics - some humorous, some not - to absolutely avoid on a first date including: ex-spouse, health issues and list of medications, upcoming court date or bankruptcy filings, troubles at work, and troubles with precocious but unpleasant children.
For more information visit Marla Martenson's site: http://www.marlamartenson.com
For more information visit Donna Marie Thompson’s site: http://www.BouncingBackNow.com
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Donna Marie Thompson, PhD – The Bouncing Back Now Relationship Coach – is a Certified Professional Coach, a Certified NLP Practitioner, and a Master Practitioner of the Energy Leadership Index. Donna Marie is listed as one of America’s Premier Experts in relationships and personal development. She is the host of the “Bouncing Back Now” show on BlogTalkRadio and on the Real Coaching Radio/TV network.