Book Announcement: Support for Millions of Families Bereaved by Suicide

A Resource to Help Children and Families After a Suicide.

Kendall Park, NJ, March 24, 2009 --( The second edition of But I Didn’t Say Goodbye: Helping Children and Families After a Suicide is a glimpse into a child’s traumatic and life changing personal experience. The revised and expanded edition of But I Didn’t Say Goodbye introduces you to a bereaved family after a suicide. Although But I Didn’t Say Goodbye is for anyone bereaved after suicide, this book will especially help bereaved military children and families. The army suicide rate is now higher than that among the general American population. Death by suicide in the armed forces has steadily increased . . . 128 suicides in the military in 2008, 115 suicides in 2007; 102 in 2006, 85 in 2005, and 67 in 2004. Teachers, funeral directors, nurses, social workers, and counselors must learn ways to support grieving children and families after a suicide.

The message of the book focuses on the difficulty and emotional strain involved in telling children that someone they loved has died by suicide. The book focuses on healing rituals, linking objects, continuing bonds, bereavement counseling, and ways to cope with sudden loss. Resources include a list of books for bereaved children, teens, parents and professionals, healing support, information on how to locate adult bereavement support groups after a suicide, grief programs for children, teens, and families, sources to obtain financial information after a sudden death, and the national suicide prevention lifeline number.

Kenneth J. Doka, PhD, Professor of Gerontology, College of New Rochelle, NY, Senior Consultant Hospice Foundation of America notes, “This is an extraordinary resource to help children deal with the difficult often hidden and stigmatizing after effects of suicide-one that is honest and respectful of the child’s intelligence and resiliency. This new edition includes even more information and resources making it an essential tool for anyone who is helping children and families cope with this most difficult loss. I strongly recommend it.”

But I Didn’t Say Goodbye, 2009. ISBN 978-1-892906-01-4. Published by Griefwork Center, Inc. $14.95. Available at,,,, and

About the Author:
Three weeks prior to giving birth to triplets, Barbara Rubel’s father, a retired NYC Police Officer, died by suicide. Her story was featured in the Emmy award winning Documentary, Fatal Mistakes, narrated by Mariette Hartley. Barbara is a nationally recognized bereavement specialist and author of Death, Dying, and Bereavement. She is a Consultant for the U.S. Department of Justice, Office for Victims of Crime, and co-author of the OVC Compassion Fatigue curriculum. Rubel is a Board Certified Expert in Traumatic Stress and Diplomate, American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress, a Certified Bereavement Specialist, a Certified Pastoral Bereavement Counselor and is trained in CISM. Rubel was a Hospice Pastoral Counselor and facilitated several support groups. Barbara served as a Consultant for the NJ Office of the Attorney General and UBHC, UMDNJ to support those impacted by September 11th.

Barbara Rubel, MA, BCETS, CBS, CPBC
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